Chap 7-D: Anger 3:230:00/3:23
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When you are aware of your intelligence, creativity and uniqueness, and yet you have been unable to tap into that as easily as nondyslexics, a natural response is to feel rage. It is a terrible bind to have intelligence and creativity but no outlet or support. Part of the rage arises out of feeling trapped, imprisoned or impotent. You might find that you have a tendency to turn this rage inward on yourself and be really mean to yourself. You might also have a very keen awareness about the injustices you see others suffering from as you know how awful it feels. You might sign up to help free the elephants! That’s great—and it’s important to find people to help free you, too!
Help On The Quest
Because you are dyslexic, you are inherently intelligent and creative because of your cool right brain wiring. If your experience has been that it’s hard to find an outlet for your unique expression, some of the healing involves having your anger witnessed by people who understand. Anger in its essence is about making a boundary: “Stop!” “Don’t do that!” and also, “I need help and I feel angry when I’m denied the support I see others getting!”
- All humans are biologically wired to need support, witnessing and soothing from their “village.”
Whether we are aware of it or not we are constantly scanning for and picking up on both the verbal and nonverbal cues that others give us. It is absolutely necessary to have an inner circle of safe people to share the ups and downs of life with, the grief, anger and joy. When we see kindness and safety in the faces of those people in our inner circle, our face relaxes, our heart relaxes, our gut relaxes, our bodies stop producing stress-chemicals and begin to produce relaxation chemicals, Then we literally run our thinking on different brain circuits. Our mood lifts. It is becomes easier to believe in ourselves. When we find and begin to let in support, we can feel our life force and find the direction we want to move in. The good news—our “village” or inner circle doesn’t have to be large, it just has to be trustworthy, even just one or two people.
- The support of kind, authentic people is how we are wired to heal and to grow.
That’s one reason why it’s so important to include some other dyslexic friends or mentors who understand your own experience from the inside out, as well as someone like a trained therapist or mentor/coach.
- When you speak to others who truly understand, though it can’t change the past, it can help you find your life force in the present.
It’s a natural human need for healing and growth to have a couple of good buddies that you can tell, “This fucking pisses me off!” and hear back, “Hell yeah! Of course you’re angry!!!”
Please note, the exercises you will find here are not meant to replace professional help. If you find that they are activating to you, please seek the guidance of a professional.